As mentioned in the previous module, I’m a firm believer that you should never ask a girl out over text for the first, second, or third date. Keep it classy and stand out by asking for a date in person or over a phone call. You can do this by (1) asking her to give you a call when she has a second or (2) ask her when she’s free for a quick call and give her a call at the specified time. The latter will keep you from waiting on pins and needles for her to call.
Now that that’s out of the way, let’s talk about getting on base. If you’re a baseball, or at least some familiarity of the game, you’ll know that a player can be in one of two places—either on the bench and on the field. You want to be on the field as much as possible.
And what I mean but that is you want to be regularly thinking of potential prospects to ask out and actually asking them out. Don’t choose to sit on the bench and remember this is entirely your choice and your choices will influence the speed at which things will happen.
It’s a numbers game.
Think of it like a funnel with holes. These holes are inevitable because everyone has their free agency but you want to put as much as you can into the top of funnel in order for you to get something out of it.
It doesn’t matter who you ask out, it’s just important to get reps in and time under the bar for you to make progress and move toward your goal of eternal marriage.
The Lord loves action. And the best action you can take is to open your mouth and just ask. The Lord will recognize your efforts as a sign of faith and help you reach your goal of eternal marriage. And if you need faith, pray with all your heart for enough belief to lead to action.
Faith without works is dead.
Now, the only thing that could be preventing you from asking women out is a limiting belief. A belief that a girl like her won’t say yes or that she doesn’t want to be bothered.
Rejection is essential to progress. And some women are going to say no. But that doesn’t influence your eternity and their “no” just means you’re one step closer to marrying your eternal companion.
Always remember that. Doing so will keep you from ever sounding or acting desperate. Because, fact of the matter is, you will be married. Have faith in the Lord and in His timing while still moving forward with faith.
Don’t stop.
Don’t consider a “no” a setback. It’s actually helping you move forward and it’s a sign you’re doing the right thing.
The easiest way to ask a girl out is to first choose the activity and then ask a woman in your social circle if they’d like to join you in that activity. It doesn’t have to be something crazy. It could be a simple “hey, I’ve been meaning to try this hole in the wall restaurant <insert name here>. Would you like to go with me?” Or even simpler, “hey, would you like to have dinner sometime? I know this great restaurant called XYZ.”
It doesn’t have to be complicated. All you need is one question to get the ball rolling.
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