Great news! She said yes to a first date.
As some basic words of wisdom I’d recommend keep the first date about one hour long. Leave both of you wanting more by not keeping it to longer than an hour and fifteen minutes long.
Now let’s say things are going really great halfway through. You can opt in for a date extender ask like, “hey this has been really fun. I know this wasn’t planned but would you want to grab some ice cream or do you need to go?”. Obviously, it doesn’t have to be ice cream but you can use it for dinner if it wasn’t planned and she hasn’t eaten yet.
In this instance, still give her the option to extend and let her opt in or opt out to said activity. If she says no, that’s okay! People legitimately live busy lives and the norm is to keep things to an hour. But keep this idea in the back pocket in case you need it.
As mentioned in previous modules, personal hygiene is important and equally important on the first date. If you’ve been sweating a lot that day prior to the date, consider taking a shower beforehand. Always, always brush your teeth and use some good mouthwash.
Now, do you kiss her on the first date? No, generally it’s better to not kiss her on the first date. Again, leave her wanting more.
As for your ride. Make sure it’s at least presentable with a place for her to sit and put her feet. Take out any visible trash or throw whatever you need into the trunk. The cleanliness of your car is a sign of how clean your place is.
The type of activity isn’t important as long as it allows for time for you two to talk and do something together. Obvious initial first date activities to avoid are the movie theater and any other intense, expensive, or loud environment. Keep the first few days simple and inexpensive. But keep in mind that inexpensive does not mean McDonalds or any other fast food chain unless it’s In and Out. 😉
Now how should I act? Just be yourself! Keep using the mirroring technique we used earlier. Don’t be over the top but also don’t appear bored out of your mind. Keep a level of decorum that is both respectable and curious. Don’t ask her a million questions at once but keep the conversation going like you would over text. Ask about her life. What she enjoys to do in her free time and what type of books or movies she enjoys.
Keep controversial topics like politics and religion for later in the relationship. Those topics are simply not important on the first few dates.
Also don’t hint toward anything about marriage or the like. The first three dates are a casual, no expectation, experiences that allow two people to get to know each other. Nothing more, nothing less.
You might be wondering, how do you read a woman on the first date? Did she enjoy herself or no? The truth is, you won’t know. And that’s okay.
Again, keep moving forward with the expectation she had a good time but still be open to recognizing if she’s not having a good time.
How many first dates should you shoot for in a month? This one is an easy one. My goal was one date per week but if I miss a week that’s okay. Just don’t go more than one weekend without a date. It could be a second date or a first one. Fill the funnel!
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