Determining the relationship (DTR) is always an exciting topic. When and how is what we’ll discuss in the module. When and how do things transition from casual to serious?
The best way to approach it is to make an in between step that I like to call the Soft DTR.
A soft DTR is just a quick temperature check to see if you’re both on the same page and want to move forward.
The Soft DTR goes something like this, “hey ____, Ive had a really great time getting to know you these last few dates and I would like to go one some more. How are you feeling?”
It’s that easy. The main idea is just to let her know you’re enjoying her company and you’d like to go on more dates. That’s it.
If she says yes, then that’s a great sign that there’s a potential relationship opportunity here. Give it two to three more dates to make it official.
If she says no, then that’s also great. It means she’s not your future wife and you’d want to know that sooner rather than later, wouldn’t you?
Or maybe she says no and just wants to remain friends. That’s also great. You just gained a friend. Doesn’t have to be a great friendship but that friendship could evolve into a space where you can ask for referrals down the road. Give it some time and then ask if she has any friends that she thinks would be a good fit.
This time is also great for allowing you both to be open about your intentions and level of commitment. You’re not boyfriend and girlfriend yet but this is a step toward that direction.
Make sure it’s a conversation. Get some insight about how she’s been feeling and if she’s like to go on more dates.
Remember that it doesn’t have to be a big deal. The bigger deal you make it the more serious it will seem. Keep it light, chill, and casual.
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